Despite what most men think about their abilities, most of them could use some serious pointers – especially because they tent to forget that every girl is a little different, and what drove their last girlfriend crazy might be uncomfortable for the next one.

There are a couple of things you can try:

The first one, and the best one, is to show him what you like. You need to masturbate for him. Tell him that he can’t touch, he can only watch. Not only is it a HUGE turn on for him (to say nothing of you) but he gets to see exactly how you like to be touched.

Second – is batting practice. A guy can never learn to use the equipment, unless he has the opportunity to spend some time getting to know it – which means that you have to be comfortable enough with him to let him spend some time exploring – (I guarantee he is ready to go) and be open minded – he may be able to discover something you never knew about.

Third – Faking it. NEVER fake it. When you fake it, what you are telling the guy, is that the thing he was doing was driving you WILD, and is JUST the thing you need to get off. When in truth, it was probably something you wish he would not do again. But what do you think he is going to do again next time? That is right – the thing that drives you wild and gets you off. That thing you hate, that you have taught him that you love.

Fourth – is communication – which is what all of these are about really – whether he is watching you masturbate or discovering your body he is constantly receiving messages – make sure they are the right ones. But also – and more obviously – just tell him what you like. I guarantee he will enjoy hearing about it – especially if you make a sexy flirty game of it. Whisper in his ear when you two are out at dinner “you know, I am thinking about that thing you did to me last night and I am getting so wet” or “I wonder if you know how much I like it when a guy does ______ to me…” and watch the sparks fly.

Finally, don’t feel bad – MOST girls can’t achieve orgasm from penetration alone, and need to have some direct clitoral stimulation in addition to whatever sort of other stimulation they are receiving. Just let you guy know that. Most guys – particularly young guys – are not aware of this.

When it comes to putting something inside of you:

First, you want to make sure that your guys fingers, like anything else that goes inside of you, are clean and soft, without any scratchy parts or roughness. Get him to use lotion all the time, and make sure that he keeps his nails clipped and CLEAN. Generally anything that would not feel OK on the inside of your cheek, will not feel ok inside you other places either.

If your guy gets very deep inside of you he can touch the opening of your uterus – it is actually a rather prominent feature inside of your vagina and it can be uncomfortable for some girls if it is not treated carefully. You should consider slipping a finger or two inside of yourself and exploring until you find the opening of your uterus so that you know what it feels like when a guy plays with it (and they all will). It is also not a bad idea to simply know your way around your own body.

If you are not producing enough lubrication, and you are not using an additional sexual lubricant, ANYTHING, including your own, or your boyfriends fingers will be uncomfortable. Check to make sure that you are wet enough, and wait until you are, or use a lubricant if you are not.

If your guy is using too many fingers too quickly, then you may well experience some discomfort from the stretching associated with that as well. Some girls, (many I think when it is done correctly) enjoy the stretching sensation of a large object inside of them, but it takes time, and it takes a lot of lubrication to do it in a way that is enjoyable and not painful.

If you have not had sex before, you, or your boyfriend, may be encountering your hymen if it is still intact, and breaking that can be unpleasant for some girls, other girls have no discomfort associated with the breaking of their hymen. Everyone is different.

Generally though, being fingered by your boyfriend should be a pleasant experience, a great part of foreplay, and a great way for him to explore your body and discover what you like.

Vibrating toys come in a variety of styles and sizes. Everything from ultra small finger tip models, to gigantic waterproof insertable models, to curved, to double headed, to inflatable, to some that are disguised as a lipstick or a variety of other items some are even sewn into panties and have a remote control – and some were never designed to be used as toys in the first place. The variation is almost limitless.

The choice of which one is best is dependant upon how you want to use it, in which circumstance, and personal preference. Some girls like to have something very large inside of them, some prefer something smaller inside of them, some don’t want anything inside at all. Some vibrators are meant to be used by couples, and some are meant to be used alone. Some women want to be able to take their vibrator with them in their purse, or even wear them out in public.

Many women have a variety of vibrating toys for a variety of situations.

Picking out which one is best for you is something that only you can do – but the shopping is fun. Go to your local adult bookstore, or shop on line at places like:

http://www.libida.com/

http://www.goodvibes.com/